This year has been meaningful in many more ways than I could have imagined. I tapped into my intuition more, reflected on my innermost deepest thoughts, forced myself out of a cocoon of self-deprecation, and put more faith in God. As a result I felt a tidal wave of doubt pass by. It was one of the best personal feats I have experienced to date.
As usual, a list of self reflections is in order. I contemplated on whether to just write about one main thing I learned, but it seems I had a lot more to divulge haha.
12 things I learned in 2019
1. Gratitude multiplies with every thought
Perhaps the most common application of gratitude is that people only want to feel it when something good happens. But even with no new developments, you can still be thankful for your present life. The more I felt gratitude, the more I realised there’s a lot to be thankful for.
2. When you choose to open your heart, you will achieve greater understanding
A lot of times people say they want the best for someone but they say it from their head, not their heart. When you do that, the thoughts don’t translate to action, resulting in behaviour that is not truly accepting. If you want to better understand them, do it from the heart and you’ll find that there’s a lot of space for that there.
I have been at the daily grind of a business news room for a while now. Every day is different yet somehow all quite the same. Regardless, as journalists plough through the complexities of each changing day, there are some cardinal rules that holds their ground. The key questions to ask no matter the assignment, the event, the news. The principles to guide our judgement.
One day as I was rushing a story, I was running through these questions in my head. Sometimes you do it without even realising. But somewhere along pondering this it dawned upon me how relevant they were to everyday life. They are questions I can ask in my general behaviour, that can reflect in better decision making no matter what I am doing at that time.
In particular however, I realised these are questions we should ask when we’re talking to people, or rather, talking about people.
I went to pick up my niece from kindergarten the other day. And I always enjoy doing so because I get to see her with her friends mingling about, saying their goodbyes and “see you tomorrow”.
They’re really cute. But what they say to each other is even cuter. Especially since they’re just a tender innocent age of four years old.
So we were walking out of the door, getting her shoes to put on before leaving, when she bumped into one of her friends. Read more…
Slightly over a month ago my bestie and I went to Turkey. It was an unexpected #bestiecation to say the least and turned out to be such a great trip. Approaching the end of summer, the weather was ideal as it was sunny with a nice accompanying breeze, about 24 degrees on average.
We went for a 12 day 11 night trip across 7 major cities which was beautifully curated by Personalised Balkan Trip together with Mitti Travel. They ensured a smooth trip for us with no hiccups and made sure we were comfortable throughout. I recommend taking this route across Western Turkey as an introduction to the historically rich and vast nation. The country is so big and every place promises different and refreshing views. One must take their time and return in multiple trips to truly cover what the country has to offer.
There’s so much to say about our recent trip I don’t even know where to start. But here, enjoy some of my favourite shots.
Muhsin Kitap, a bookstore near Istiklal Street, Istanbul
True to what everyone has said, the country is filled with cats. And they’re all well fed and clean. I especially love seeing cats in the shops because nothing makes a place more welcoming than a furry friend with a cute little meow. Also, a bookstore with a cat…can I please work here?
Pergamon, a former ancient Greek city in now modern day Bergama, Izmir
Relationship expert Tracy McMillan has spoken about the need to know your partner’s “owners manual” in order to have a happy relationship. It’s a great term that can be used for anyone in your life you care about and want to have a good relationship with.
What exactly is an owner’s manual?
Just like the definition, it’s an instruction manual or a user guide, a how-to-use reference for whatever product you’ve purchased or have.
But how exactly do you apply that term to relationships with people?