I know that by now, just mentioning Marie Kondo’s name is a cliché, let alone that term, spark joy.
But I must tell you, she came into my life at the right time.
Specifically, she came into my life in 2018, about 6 months after I turned 26 when I was slowly coming out of a phase of jadedness with renewed life spirit. As they say, I was ready to KonMari the heck out of my entangled mind, my soul, and of course, my room full of things.
Some days I do wonder if this was all fated.
I turned 25 on Saturday, the first day of Ramadan, the holy fasting month observed by Muslims once a year. I felt extra blessed and for that I thought I’d do a 25 things I’m grateful for at 25 kind of list:
1) My parents for always being strict and for keeping my feet grounded
2) My siblings for always prioritising family
3) My best friend for always reflecting on religion with me
4) My boyfriend for being dedicated, harmonious and kind
5) My niece Sofia for teaching me to be more selfless
This year has felt so incredibly long! I know I said the same thing last year, but perhaps this year was an extension of that, only I learned much more. So much more. Where do I begin? A list is in order of course.
12 things I learned in 2016
- Do not look for a person to complete you. That person does not exist
So I think the biggest misconception when it comes to love and relationships is that people feel the need to look for someone who can complete them. This year I realised that there is no such person who completes another. A relationship is the harmony of the lives of two individuals, not one person trying to complete another persons life. Once I realised that, my outlook on relationships made more sense. I was able to manage my expectations for relationships better. Read more…
We’re always making mistakes, intentionally or unintentionally hurting others. It’s inevitable. Or at least that’s what life has taught me lately. Perhaps that is the blessing of a prayer, to seek forgiveness from God asides seeking forgiveness from the person.
But how about forgiving yourself?
I was on the plane and thinking about past relationships and fallen friendships and I wondered, why is it hard for some people to move on? I thought about why some people always try to prove a point and I figured one thing – they victimize themselves and those around them.
I love being a city girl. Even if I choose to go away for a holiday, I wont ever steer away from the city too long. Like many, I’ve been born and bred in a city and have naturally formed a dependency on city life to feel at ease.
But it gets to me, y’know?
Seelan Singham, Chairman of McKinsey Malaysia
I recently had the opportunity to attend a talk by Seelan Singham – Chairman of Mckinsey & Company Malaysia, organised by the Perdana Fellows Alumni Association. Set in a company meeting room at McKinsey’s office on a Saturday morning, Seelan took the opportunity to inspire the room with 5 succinct lessons on leadership he has learned throughout his career.
- If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough
Additionally it is important to have the right dream that stretches you in the right direction
- Tackle stretch opportunities with discipline
Dreams come true with hard work and great discipline
- Pursue caring mentors and partners
Be open to other people knowing you better than yourself
- Give to the other
Your relationships with others is important (it helps you live longer) – nurture it
- Mental renewal and resilience
Stretch your mind often – Meet different people; Do things outside your comfort zone
I was deeply inspired and felt truly connected to his advice because I felt they were great pointers for anyone’s personal development and growth, beyond career progression and applicable throughout all stages of a person’s personal and professional journey. As a young analyst with many goals and who has received varying advice on leadership, these points help put into perspective the traits of what makes a quality leader – ambitious, hardworking, empathetic, selfless and resilient.
While most people write about being an actual parent or grandparent, I realised that noone really writes about being an aunt or uncle. After my niece and the first grandchild of the family was born over 6 months ago, the family’s life changed and suddenly the main focus of family gatherings was on this new small being – a baby with the most beautiful eyes and happiest smile that melts hearts.
Baby Sofia has already taught me a lot in her first 6 months – about how babies work, about parenthood and about being more selfless.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
A few weekends back I decided to visit Ilham Gallery in KL thanks to a friends recommendation. I didn’t know about it previously (to be honest I don’t know much about museums in KL and I am ashamed of this) so it definitely spurred me to go. Between you and me, ever since I got back to KL for good in 2013 I have consciously decided to be on a mission to get to know my city and country better. I obviously haven’t seen everything yet, which is a good thing because it means I still have new things to discover on weekends!