My dad’s birthday is coming up and he turns 72 this year. Alhamdullilah, his health is still well (despite a few stents in his arteries). His mind is also still strong, intellect and wisdom very much in tact and sense of humour very well alive.
In celebration of that, I thought of writing down as many things I can remember that my dad has told or taught me throughout my life. He is a force to be reckoned with, and many of these quotes are a result of his life ideologies rooted in discipline, security, modesty and purpose. I eventually saw the wisdom behind what he said and they have become sort of a guide to my adulthood.
10 of my favourite sayings:
1. Your hard work is not my hard work
I once complained that I had tried my very best to prepare for an exam but still did not get an A. He said this very line to me then walked away. I was reminded of his academic accomplishments and the level of perseverance he said he had given in order to succeed. I guess it was no match, so I stopped complaining.
The Messenger of God ﷺ said, “The best charity a Muslim practices is acquiring some knowledge and teaching it to his brother”
I was a pretty inquisitive child growing up. I used to ask a lot of “Why?” and it seemed like I would ask that for everything that was being said to me. I think it annoyed my mother sometimes.
I was genuinely curious though. For me, understanding was correlated to reasoning so I was always trying to make sense of things and not just take things at face value.
Since we take our traits from our parents, I was quite sure I took this curiosity trait from my mother.
This is intended to be a light hearted post, but one which you may or may not be able to relate to if you have strict parents. My traditional parents are very strict (my Dad for the most part). Growing up, I struggled to understand their parenting styles. It frustrated me a lot. Maybe it’s their individual personalities. Maybe they’re just paranoid about my safety.
As I get older however, I am beginning to see some wisdom in their past choices. I don’t know if I’d go so far to say that I’d be the same when I become a parent. Though there is much to understand why they didn’t let me have my way for certain areas of my life.
Caveat: I had a great upbringing. It was very colourful, albeit some what controlled. I have concluded that they obviously knew more than me at the time and saw what I couldn’t comprehend till today. Even though many of the times I didn’t get my way I would throw a fit, I ended up feeling very grounded. The wisdom of parents can only be learnt when your child hood is over.
That said, they are a lot more relaxed today. Thank God, because I’m an adult ok!
Now that I am a bit older and have quite passed the raging hormones of a bitter adolescent, I feel like I can appreciate my parents more.
I know this happens to all of us, we only begin to show true appreciation when we have gained more maturity or are ourselves have become/about to share the same experience.
I’m writing this post because I recently had a moment where it finally hit me – this will be me one day.
إِنَّا للهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ
My uncle passed away 2 nights ago. I still remember the family sitting down at the dining table having dinner but discussing his health condition which was critical at that moment. Thanks to family group chats we were constantly being updated. But just half and hour into dinner, the text messages were becoming more rampant. My aunt (his wife) was asking my parents to come to the hospital quickly which they were going to after dinner. But shortly after, he took his last breath. And therefore my parents were too late to see him before he passed away. Such is the concept of time, you could never tell if you’ll have enough and therefore it is a gamble life forces you to take.
2013 is coming to an end and since it’s been a good year all year round I thought I’d share some highlights :)
I had a wonderful final year in the UK
Your final year in university is the most important; you have one last chance to step up your grades and make the most of your time in university all at the same time. I’m glad I was surrounded by fun-loving friends who were serious about their studies but at the same time serious about making every moment abroad count.
I graduated with an LLB(hons)
5 months since I graduated!! Time sure flies, read about it here :)
I did a good amount of travelling
I was blessed to be able to visit a few countries in Europe this year. From Scotland to Bosnia to Austria. Each are individually different, have different societal personalities, tell its own story of struggle yet offer so much natural beauty to appreciate. Travelling is so wonderful given the right company and weather and I was blessed throughout. Looking forward to more adventures next year!
Mostar, Bosnia and Herzegovina
My brother got married!
It was such a momentous occasion as we welcomed my SIL into the family. I finally get a sister! Hehe
Happiness in tiffany blue
And I started a new chapter in my life – the CLP
I’ve somewhat written about this so I’ll follow up with an update – it’s been 3 months and a new term is about to start. The challenges slowly dawn upon us with the workload and studying but I’m just so glad I have a great support system to fall back on; my classmates and parents.
HELP University’s inaugural law dinning
A good year is a year that was good all around and so I will be ending 2013 with a smile and a handful of memories. Couldn’t have asked for more.
Turned the big 2-1 recently! And it’s been nothing short of wonderful.
Spent my last few days as a student in London with close friends and they were all so sweet as to make my 21st special in advance. In an ideal world I would have loved to have a dinner party where all my loved ones and close friends would attend. But splitting celebrations is better than no celebration at all!
Flew home 2 days before my birthday and came home to this…
A Disney princess birthday banner! My family’s attempt at being cute haha. But super sweet nevertheless. Kinda feel like an 8 year old all over again but whatever, it’s the thought that counts! *twirls*
And on my real birthday I was surprised with this…
A hand made scrap page by my second brother! (Or more like a timeline reminiscing my dorky days *cries*)
Super sweet and thoughtful really. I have no words. As you can see from the photo I was really happy. Best present yet ♥
From my better half I received this really chiq fashion book dedicated to celebrating the immortal icons of style. My cup of tea really. He knows how much I love fashion!
Turning 21 has indeed been blessed and special – advanced birthday celebrations, and celebrations with the family and other half, just what i wanted/needed right after finishing my final exams ever. Turning 21 is also significant to me because it comes at the end of my degree. Finishing my degree and insyaallah graduating over the summer are huge significant timeline markers in my life so far. It’s significant because I am soon to end this chapter as a student and soon enough to start a brand new one entering the working world. All are pending developments. But in the mean time as I take a breather, I also need to start thinking about what I want the next chapter of my life to be like. So many expectations and pressure for achievement. Can’t believe I’m 21. Feels like yesterday I was 17 and wondering what life would be like when I become legal.
Well here it is.