Learning to be kind during a lockdown

Since my last few entries, the movement control order or MCO in KL has been extended three times. Most of us have accepted this and are forced to make do holding up at home longer. I know and I hear that it is challenging for a lot of people, single or married with kids. It’s difficult for everyone equally but God willing, the community will come out of it stronger and fully recovered.

Since this blogpost, I have been doing a lot of reflecting. I mean, one has so much time at home, and while most of the time is spent working in front of the laptop, there are pockets of free time to think and really, ponder about things.

A lot of people have gotten cabin fever being cooped up at home, and I’m not excluded. There were certain days where my cabin fever was quite bad, I think I almost lost my cool with my parents. I just wanted to be left alone but they were there, always seeking my attention. There were also moments where I wasn’t practicing kindness in my communication to others and I caught myself for it. Was I being a jerk?

It got me thinking. Am I using the MCO as an excuse to not continuously practice kindness? How can I continue to practice kindness and strive to be a better person while being locked in the house all day?

One needed to retreat to one’s room to rest. That’s the introvert in me needing to recharge. The next day, I made an intention to be better. To speak better, and to act better.

I narrowed down specific acts that I did that was intuitive of practicing kindness. Intention is important, but after that comes consciousness. One needs to be conscious of one’s actions to practice kindness. Here’s some ‘acts’ I devoted to doing consciously in an effort to be better.

  • Let the person finish speaking. Sometimes you get impatient with what the other person is trying to convey. Relax. They have a right to speak, let them finish and then take your turn to respond.
  • Check in on a friend or loved one. Why wait for the other to do it first? Put your ego or whatnot aside. Text them, call them, video call them. It could make their day. Even if it’s just for 5 minutes. It could make them thankful that you got in touch. You won’t know till you reach out.
  • Help out your loved ones or the people you live with around the house. The place you live in is most likely not a hotel. Do your part to maintain it especially during these times. Everyone’s got to put in their effort to make sure the abode is sustaining. Offer to buy groceries, clean the dishes, take out the garbage, water the garden, do laundry, change bedsheet, clean toilets. Anything. Help lift the burden on others and they will do the same for you.
  • Lighten up, smile, laugh, and show some affection. It’s so easy to be stressed in this situation. Everyone is probably on default moody mode. But that’s the bad part, the longer you let yourself be moody, the more likely it will stick. Practice gratitude and enjoy the moment with your loved ones. Do whatever it takes to lift your own spirits. And share that joy to others always.

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